gordsellar’s avatargordsellar’s Twitter Archive—№ 10,012

            1. …in reply to @mcjulie
              @mcjulie About angry *moms* specifically, I imagine partly it's talking about their real frustrations isn't socially acceptable: you must "handle" much of the extra parenting while working from home, & never tire of spending all day with your kid daily. You *must* "succeed" parentally.
          1. …in reply to @gordsellar
            @mcjulie The pressure to "handle it" & the social unacceptability of calling out your unsupportive spouse, family, government, etc, but also the unacceptability of being "burned out" and not some font of maternal energy... the label "bad mother" or "failure" looms.
        1. …in reply to @gordsellar
          @mcjulie Some probably also struggle with actual feelings of failure. It's almost certainly easier to buy into, "Ah, well, it's inevitable, we're all gonna catch it..." and then, like a cascade, you buy into the rest of the zero-mitigation ideas in a fell swoop.
      1. …in reply to @gordsellar
        @mcjulie (Like, as with religion, people often internalize the rest of the packaged set of ideas that go with it: "indefinite measures" and "masks harm kids" and all the other nonsense. Justification and rage is WAY easier than admitting desperation/confusion.)
    1. …in reply to @gordsellar
      @mcjulie In 2020, I saw many childless people using "think of the kids" nonsense ("masks ruin social skills, poor kids!" etc.) to justify COVID-skeptic nonsense. It was very clueless and transparent, and they ignored how kids were mostly fine with masks, etc.
  1. …in reply to @gordsellar
    @mcjulie *Actual* parents were more tired, worried, and sympathetic about their kids' social deprivation and fears and stress back then. But burnout has set in, and so that's changed somewhat in the last few months especially, I've noticed.
    1. …in reply to @gordsellar
      @mcjulie (Add in how dominant "over it" and "it's over" and how little discussion long COVID in kids or the future of inevitable variants, and it's not so surprising.) Not to justify any of it, of course.