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@adealornodeal @slimjinpyo It really truly is almost always a he. Also, I think maybe it's more realistic not to call it a "yearning for connection" so much as "an inability to experience solitude as a positive thing."Permalink On twitter.com
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@adealornodeal @slimjinpyo Actually, that's another aspect of why I think @downhill1004 missed my point: it's not "oh, he's in my personal space unnecessarily" so much as, "Dude, can you not handle sitting through a damned movie alone, for once?"On twitter.com
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@adealornodeal @slimjinpyo @downhill1004 Because if I'm being honest, deep down part of me saw his choosing to book a seat *right* next to a total stranger and then insisting on sitting in it as somehow "infantile." I'm not saying it's nice or fair, but immediately I was feeling, "What are you, a toddler?"Permalink On twitter.com
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@adealornodeal @slimjinpyo @downhill1004 Maybe it's unfair, but but I feel anyone who cannot stand to sit alone for a couple of hours and enjoy something in solitude has been developmentally stunted in some way. That's not purely culture: people like that exist everywhere.Permalink On twitter.com
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@adealornodeal @slimjinpyo @downhill1004 But there is a cultural element: the assumption that being incapable of handling solitude is normal seems to be *way* more widespread here than in any place I've ever been for any length of time. That's only slowly changing, though it is changing, of course.Permalink On twitter.com