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@mcjulie Absolutely. My suspicion though is that people who're never pressured to develop robust methods of self-regulation actually *don't* develop them, and thus experience their own impulses or drives as if they were out of their control. They end up lacking basic tools of humanity.Permalink On twitter.com
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@mcjulie Hence the rage they experience when cornered about this shit: it's like, "WHAT CHOICE DID I HAVE?!?!?" That's not to excuse people lacking this stuff, so much as to say a society that doesn't expect everyone to develop self-regulation of emotions/impulses ends up warping people.Permalink On twitter.com
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@mcjulie (I can see Brett Kavanaugh's angry face in my mind... but I think it's more universal than that. Where I live, there's a lot of enabling of adults of both sexes to live without learning self-regulation of anger, anxiety, etc. emotions, with sadly predictable social effects.)Permalink On twitter.com
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@mcjulie Having seen that, I suspect the degree might be unusual, but the dynamic universal: that men more often get enfranchised to non-regulate privately *and* publicly alike, where women are restricted to doing it privately. (ie. within the family.)Permalink On twitter.com
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@mcjulie Which probably sounds like I'm saying, "It's not patriarchy" but I mean that this dysfunction (of patriarchy) deforms a lot of attitudes re: self-regulation across gender lines, b/c it's fundamentally hierarchic, & hierarchies are all about shitting on those below one.Permalink On twitter.com
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@mcjulie Though perhaps that's an adjacent point to yours...On twitter.com